Love - What is love Are you curious to know what love really is? Do you want to know if your significant other loves you or not? There are many different ways to define love, but there are only a few real ways to love someone. Love is very precious and cannot be taken lightly or seriously. It is something that makes us blind, deaf, mute, and many other things. Here is the true definition of what love really is.
Love is an action. When someone say's. “I Love You", then turns around and acts like they could care less to be with your or around you, then they do not love you. When someone says that they just stopped loving their significant other it is not a feeling that they lost, but an action they stopped taking part in. Love is by far an action and not just a feeling. Sure there are feelings that go along with it, but love is an action.
Now that we know it is an action we need to go a little further to get to the true meaning of love. Let us start by looking at the very popular 50/50 relationship. This means that each partner is suppose to give 50% to the relationship. This is a bad way to measure any relationship because if all you give is 50%, then you are only giving half of yourself. Love is a 100/100 relationship.
This is a relationship where both partners are willing to give 100% of themselves no matter what. If you truly do love someone, then you should not think about whether you are on the giving end or the taking end, but you should be willing to give, give, give, and then give some more. This is the only way that a relationship can truly work and be a loving relationship.
Now love is also forgiving and understanding of the fact that we are all humans and we do make mistakes. There are many imperfections in a loving relationship, but the difference is that those imperfections are understood, accepted, and forgiven when they cause hurt. This is a true sign of a loving relationship and forgiveness is one of the deepest forms of love that can be expressed.
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Mature And Immature Love
Share Free : Love has many facets. Love is still a mystery and every lover has his/her own story about love. What is mature love and what type is immature let us find out.
In immature love it is said that the person who falls in love has low self-respect. He/she has little self-confidence and finds a lover to see all the qualities that he/she misses in them. The person does not love himself/herself, but loves the partner with great fervor. This is called immature love.
Mature love - If a person has very high self-respect and great self-confidence, he/she is supposed to be in mature love. This is called mature love because it is expected that such persons know what they are doing? They know why they love a particular person and what they expect from the love.
In my opinion both these kids of love may fail equally badly or survive against all the odds, because while talking of love, we have to consider the partner also. I may be a very self respecting person and may have fallen in love after lot of deliberation. That does not matter to my partner who may react in different fashion as times passes. My success or failure does not depend only on me, but also my partner.
Love defies all analysis. Why two persons fall in attraction and become inseparable is a mystery. Very contrasting personalities may love each other for all the life and very similar partner may fall out of love in a short time. It is the very nature of love that makes it a subject of so much investigation.
In immature love it is said that the person who falls in love has low self-respect. He/she has little self-confidence and finds a lover to see all the qualities that he/she misses in them. The person does not love himself/herself, but loves the partner with great fervor. This is called immature love.
Mature love - If a person has very high self-respect and great self-confidence, he/she is supposed to be in mature love. This is called mature love because it is expected that such persons know what they are doing? They know why they love a particular person and what they expect from the love.
In my opinion both these kids of love may fail equally badly or survive against all the odds, because while talking of love, we have to consider the partner also. I may be a very self respecting person and may have fallen in love after lot of deliberation. That does not matter to my partner who may react in different fashion as times passes. My success or failure does not depend only on me, but also my partner.
Love defies all analysis. Why two persons fall in attraction and become inseparable is a mystery. Very contrasting personalities may love each other for all the life and very similar partner may fall out of love in a short time. It is the very nature of love that makes it a subject of so much investigation.
Love - The Ultimate Vibration
Share Free : Feel the vibes - Although ridiculed, that question is not nearly as silly as it may seem at first. In fact, science has now recognized that what we call "reality" is in fact based on strings of vibrating particles.
In other words, we and everything else in the universe consist, in essence, of vibrations. And the ultimate vibration--the highest, lightest, fastest, finest, largest, and most powerful of all frequencies--is unconditional love.
The vibration of unconditional love is sheer joy, utter bliss, and total transcendence. It is the healing, uplifting Source of All That Is. Some of us call that ultimate love vibration God. Others use different names. The moniker makes no difference. God is love. Love is God. Love is the Goddess, too.
This begs some obvious questions, however. If everything is love, why is there so much ugliness and nastiness in this world? Why is our ultimate love-essence so well hidden? Why so much alienation, separation, suffering, and cruelty? Why are we wounded, fearful, and lacking instead of whole, loving, and abundant?
Sages have maintained for millennia that the physical world is just an illusion. For being "unreal," however, it certainly packs a powerful and painful bite.
No, the physical world we inhabit is very real. It serves many useful purposes, the most important of which is to reflect back to us the state of our vibes. If we don't like the reflection, instead of trying to "change the world," perhaps we might start with changing ourselves--our individual vibrations.
There are many ways to do this. We influence our vibrations every time we meditate, pray, chant, assume yoga postures, consume certain foods, herbs, or supplements, visualize, and more. And while the effects of the preceding activities are often very positive, they also tend not to be permanent. To keep experiencing the benefits, we have to repeat the chanting, the meditating, the yoga postures, the visualizations, the supplements, and so forth.
Some maintain that this is simply spiritual discipline. But it can also devolve into a spiritual treadmill, tying us to routine and repetition even when it may no longer make much sense for us to continue.
Instead, why not just go straight to our actual vibrations? Most of us intuitively sense that love is healing. What we don't yet realize is what wounds us in the first place. We are in the dark about what keeps us separate from that ultimate love vibration, locked into cycles of misery, poverty, violence, and despair.
Two words: self-judgment. Let us shine the light at long last on how self-judgment injures us at the energy-essence level because it does not vibrate. Self-judgment stops what is meant to be our free-flowing essences into a fixed interpretation of our experiences, even when that interpretation is mistaken or no longer valid.
Once parts of our vibrating essences are stopped entirely or slowed by self-judgment, we experience pain and disease at all levels of self: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. We manifest lack instead of abundance, disease instead of health.
Self-judgment hampers, warps, and twists the vibration of our essences into something barely recognizable and often repulsive. Self-judgment is the pervert, the liar, the deceiver, spreading darkness and disconnection, reveling in pain and mayhem. If self-judgment sounds like a more familiar term, such as Satan or the Devil, well, the shoe certainly fits.
All of us go through our lives reeling unknowingly from the self-judgments trapped within our vibrating essences which, as a consequence of self-judgment, do not vibrate as freely as they could and in some places do not vibrate at all. And, just as self-judgment wounds us individually, the collective reality we know as the human condition on earth suffers in the extreme from the combined impact of all of our self-judgments.
Believe it or not, the preceding is good news. It means that once we remove even the slightest self-judgment from our vibrating essences, we have healed not only ourselves individually, but our world collectively.
We are indeed linked to each other and All That Is through our interconnected vibrations. When self-judgment slows a part of our vibrating essences, the rest of us suffer as well, even if indirectly. The reverse is also true. When we remove a self-judgment from our vibrating essence, we help heal everyone and everything else around us.
Healing our vibrating essences, then, is the greatest gift we can offer to others as well as to ourselves. Far from being selfish or self-absorbed, healing self at the vibrating essence level is the ultimate act of generosity because doing so helps others heal, too.
We are indeed all that connected via the vibes.
In other words, we and everything else in the universe consist, in essence, of vibrations. And the ultimate vibration--the highest, lightest, fastest, finest, largest, and most powerful of all frequencies--is unconditional love.
The vibration of unconditional love is sheer joy, utter bliss, and total transcendence. It is the healing, uplifting Source of All That Is. Some of us call that ultimate love vibration God. Others use different names. The moniker makes no difference. God is love. Love is God. Love is the Goddess, too.
This begs some obvious questions, however. If everything is love, why is there so much ugliness and nastiness in this world? Why is our ultimate love-essence so well hidden? Why so much alienation, separation, suffering, and cruelty? Why are we wounded, fearful, and lacking instead of whole, loving, and abundant?
Sages have maintained for millennia that the physical world is just an illusion. For being "unreal," however, it certainly packs a powerful and painful bite.
No, the physical world we inhabit is very real. It serves many useful purposes, the most important of which is to reflect back to us the state of our vibes. If we don't like the reflection, instead of trying to "change the world," perhaps we might start with changing ourselves--our individual vibrations.
There are many ways to do this. We influence our vibrations every time we meditate, pray, chant, assume yoga postures, consume certain foods, herbs, or supplements, visualize, and more. And while the effects of the preceding activities are often very positive, they also tend not to be permanent. To keep experiencing the benefits, we have to repeat the chanting, the meditating, the yoga postures, the visualizations, the supplements, and so forth.
Some maintain that this is simply spiritual discipline. But it can also devolve into a spiritual treadmill, tying us to routine and repetition even when it may no longer make much sense for us to continue.
Instead, why not just go straight to our actual vibrations? Most of us intuitively sense that love is healing. What we don't yet realize is what wounds us in the first place. We are in the dark about what keeps us separate from that ultimate love vibration, locked into cycles of misery, poverty, violence, and despair.
Two words: self-judgment. Let us shine the light at long last on how self-judgment injures us at the energy-essence level because it does not vibrate. Self-judgment stops what is meant to be our free-flowing essences into a fixed interpretation of our experiences, even when that interpretation is mistaken or no longer valid.
Once parts of our vibrating essences are stopped entirely or slowed by self-judgment, we experience pain and disease at all levels of self: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. We manifest lack instead of abundance, disease instead of health.
Self-judgment hampers, warps, and twists the vibration of our essences into something barely recognizable and often repulsive. Self-judgment is the pervert, the liar, the deceiver, spreading darkness and disconnection, reveling in pain and mayhem. If self-judgment sounds like a more familiar term, such as Satan or the Devil, well, the shoe certainly fits.
All of us go through our lives reeling unknowingly from the self-judgments trapped within our vibrating essences which, as a consequence of self-judgment, do not vibrate as freely as they could and in some places do not vibrate at all. And, just as self-judgment wounds us individually, the collective reality we know as the human condition on earth suffers in the extreme from the combined impact of all of our self-judgments.
Believe it or not, the preceding is good news. It means that once we remove even the slightest self-judgment from our vibrating essences, we have healed not only ourselves individually, but our world collectively.
We are indeed linked to each other and All That Is through our interconnected vibrations. When self-judgment slows a part of our vibrating essences, the rest of us suffer as well, even if indirectly. The reverse is also true. When we remove a self-judgment from our vibrating essence, we help heal everyone and everything else around us.
Healing our vibrating essences, then, is the greatest gift we can offer to others as well as to ourselves. Far from being selfish or self-absorbed, healing self at the vibrating essence level is the ultimate act of generosity because doing so helps others heal, too.
We are indeed all that connected via the vibes.
Show Your Love
Never think hard to figure what your woman wants. Most of us think, woman in the world only value the man from his material. Woman needs more than money to satisfy her self. The tree top of woman need are :
Need #1: Security. Women want to feel safe. In today’s civilized world however, safety isn’t really that big of an issue anymore.
Need #2: Pleasure. Women want to feel pure sensual stimulation. What do men talk about? Business, sports, and women. But what do women talk about? Sex, men, sex, relationships, and sex -- did I mention sex?
Need #3: Adventure. Women want to feel excitement and anticipation. They have a strong desire to trust in someone who will lead them into emotional charged experiences that they wouldn’t have the courage to go alone.
So, do you still doubt to satisfy your woman. Wake up.
Love: We Can't Live Without It
Share free Love - Go online on any given day and you can find millions of different websites devoted to love. Online love tests, love calculators, dating sites, poems about love, you name it, you can find it. Love is one the most complex human emotions and has caused so much happiness and grief through the ages, that some of our best art has sprung from its destruction.
The chemical composition of our bodies is very complex. When scientists began trying to understand the process of love in humans, they came up with some surprising findings. First, the part of the brain that is actively involved in love is very small, especially when you compare it to the larger brain activity involved in friendship. Second, the active areas of the brain are different from other emotions such as fear or anger. Parts of your brain in charge of love include the area involved in gut feelings and more interestingly, the area of the brain which generates the euphoria associated with drugs like cocaine. The brains of those in love don't look like people experiencing strong emotions, but more like those who have been snorting cocaine. Love uses many of the same pathways that are activated when a person is becoming addicted to something.
In addition to all this, apparently there are three stages of love. The first, lust, is driven purely by hormones like testosterone and estrogen. These hormones increase your willingness to hook up with someone, even if they may not be your 'type'. Attraction is the second stage. "Love-struck" may be a better way to put it. This is the stage where you can't think of anything else. You might lose your appetite and may not be able to sleep because of your preoccupation with the object of your affection. In this stage there are groups on chemicals that are flooded into your body. Dopamine, which is also associated with cocaine and nicotine, is one.
Another is not nor epinephrine, or adrenaline, which can make us sweat and send our heart racing with love. Serotonin is one of the more important chemicals involved with love, but it has also been associated with people who are insane. The last stage is attachment. This is what happens after attraction, if the bond between a couple is going to last. There are two hormones involved in this stage too. Oxytocin is released during childbirth and helps create a strong bond between a mother and her child. It is also released during orgasm and scientists think it promotes bonding between two people when they are intimate. There's a theory that the more sex a couple has, the closer they will bond, which is good news for men!
Love has mystified humans for eons. Even with all the explanations by scientists of the various chemicals involved in love, it sure doesn't make it any easier when you are in the throes of lust or love struck. As someone once wrote, love is a many splendored thing. Many would rather live without its side effects, but as a whole, the human race wouldn't have been around as long as it has without it.
The chemical composition of our bodies is very complex. When scientists began trying to understand the process of love in humans, they came up with some surprising findings. First, the part of the brain that is actively involved in love is very small, especially when you compare it to the larger brain activity involved in friendship. Second, the active areas of the brain are different from other emotions such as fear or anger. Parts of your brain in charge of love include the area involved in gut feelings and more interestingly, the area of the brain which generates the euphoria associated with drugs like cocaine. The brains of those in love don't look like people experiencing strong emotions, but more like those who have been snorting cocaine. Love uses many of the same pathways that are activated when a person is becoming addicted to something.
In addition to all this, apparently there are three stages of love. The first, lust, is driven purely by hormones like testosterone and estrogen. These hormones increase your willingness to hook up with someone, even if they may not be your 'type'. Attraction is the second stage. "Love-struck" may be a better way to put it. This is the stage where you can't think of anything else. You might lose your appetite and may not be able to sleep because of your preoccupation with the object of your affection. In this stage there are groups on chemicals that are flooded into your body. Dopamine, which is also associated with cocaine and nicotine, is one.
Another is not nor epinephrine, or adrenaline, which can make us sweat and send our heart racing with love. Serotonin is one of the more important chemicals involved with love, but it has also been associated with people who are insane. The last stage is attachment. This is what happens after attraction, if the bond between a couple is going to last. There are two hormones involved in this stage too. Oxytocin is released during childbirth and helps create a strong bond between a mother and her child. It is also released during orgasm and scientists think it promotes bonding between two people when they are intimate. There's a theory that the more sex a couple has, the closer they will bond, which is good news for men!
Love has mystified humans for eons. Even with all the explanations by scientists of the various chemicals involved in love, it sure doesn't make it any easier when you are in the throes of lust or love struck. As someone once wrote, love is a many splendored thing. Many would rather live without its side effects, but as a whole, the human race wouldn't have been around as long as it has without it.
Love - Why Love is a Choice, Not an Emotion
I have heard so many times that love is blind, but I have not seen anyone who goes to take hold of the mad person on the street as his/her heartthrob. I believe so much in life that every problem I have ever had, I got myself into it. Nobody dragged me kicking and screaming into the problem. If you go to a motel and get caught with someone who is not your wife or husband, it is not because you magically appeared there out of thin air. You had to plan to be there.
I have also heard that "First impression can be deceptive". It follows therefore, that people form an opinion of someone based on their first encounter. This impression can be positive or negative. A person's manner of dressing, gait, and etiquette are some of the criteria upon which an impression is formed.
Outward appearance can also be deceptive. It does not always reflect what is inside. Consider the coconut which may look good outside but it is rotten inside. Also, consider the woman who is an epitome of humility but her gait portrays her as proud. All these tell us that appearance can be deceptive. This therefore, has made it clear that love is always a choice people make, not as a result of their emotions.
I overheard someone telling his friend how to compose himself before appearing in the presence of a woman he would like to befriend. He said that women want men who are confident, not too apologetic, since no man is loved by apologizing for everything. In other words, he must be himself, displaying some of the "bad boy" qualities, even though women like men who are gentle, with good sense of humor; men who are good listeners, faithful, and can treat their women well; men who are sensitive, ambitious and full of thoughtful surprises; and men who are in good shape to take care of them properly. Good talk, isn't it such things can truly trigger someone's emotions but cannot build a lasting relationship.
In Galatians 5:19-21, Paul mentions seventeen of the terrible "works of the flesh" which are capable of deceiving one in a moment of decision. Nine of these are sins against love. And he says in Ephesians 4:31; "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice". Here Paul answers the question why love is a choice and not an emotion, showing us why there is so little love among Christians, and why it is so hard to arouse such love. All these sins, according to him, are "works of the flesh".
By this saying, even the earnest Christian is still in the flesh. He tells us that in the flesh, dwells no good thing, because the mind of the flesh is enmity against God. It is quite impossible for a Christian by his own efforts to lead a life of love. Scripture says that when we walk in the Spirit of God, it will be impossible for us to fulfill the lusts of the flesh. The Spirit enables us to keep the flesh always in subjection. The "fruit of the Spirit" will be Christ's love poured into our hearts as a fountain of love. Paul adds that the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus is what makes us free from the law of sin.
Since it is the grace of God that will always enable the Christian to walk, not after the flesh, but after the Spirit, then it becomes evident that love is a matter of choice and not an emotion. It is also evident that since the Christian cannot in his own strength love God and his fellow-man, emotion can never lead him to a blind acceptance of what can involve his life. Also, the great reason for so much bitterness, lack of love and the numerous emotional outbursts in so many quarters today is because the Christian walks after the flesh. The only sure way to abide in this life of love, to love God and Christ with the whole heart, to love the brethren fervently, and to have a tender compassionate love for all who do not yet know Christ - is an absolute surrender to the Holy Spirit (a choice), to be led and be guided by Him each day of our lives. It is through the Holy Spirit that this love is shed abroad in our hearts.
Friend, it is my wish that you learn the lesson that will make the Holy Spirit take entire possession of you, and work continually within you, a life of love to Christ and to all men. Pray over this thought until it gains control of your whole being!
I have also heard that "First impression can be deceptive". It follows therefore, that people form an opinion of someone based on their first encounter. This impression can be positive or negative. A person's manner of dressing, gait, and etiquette are some of the criteria upon which an impression is formed.
Outward appearance can also be deceptive. It does not always reflect what is inside. Consider the coconut which may look good outside but it is rotten inside. Also, consider the woman who is an epitome of humility but her gait portrays her as proud. All these tell us that appearance can be deceptive. This therefore, has made it clear that love is always a choice people make, not as a result of their emotions.
I overheard someone telling his friend how to compose himself before appearing in the presence of a woman he would like to befriend. He said that women want men who are confident, not too apologetic, since no man is loved by apologizing for everything. In other words, he must be himself, displaying some of the "bad boy" qualities, even though women like men who are gentle, with good sense of humor; men who are good listeners, faithful, and can treat their women well; men who are sensitive, ambitious and full of thoughtful surprises; and men who are in good shape to take care of them properly. Good talk, isn't it such things can truly trigger someone's emotions but cannot build a lasting relationship.
In Galatians 5:19-21, Paul mentions seventeen of the terrible "works of the flesh" which are capable of deceiving one in a moment of decision. Nine of these are sins against love. And he says in Ephesians 4:31; "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice". Here Paul answers the question why love is a choice and not an emotion, showing us why there is so little love among Christians, and why it is so hard to arouse such love. All these sins, according to him, are "works of the flesh".
By this saying, even the earnest Christian is still in the flesh. He tells us that in the flesh, dwells no good thing, because the mind of the flesh is enmity against God. It is quite impossible for a Christian by his own efforts to lead a life of love. Scripture says that when we walk in the Spirit of God, it will be impossible for us to fulfill the lusts of the flesh. The Spirit enables us to keep the flesh always in subjection. The "fruit of the Spirit" will be Christ's love poured into our hearts as a fountain of love. Paul adds that the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus is what makes us free from the law of sin.
Since it is the grace of God that will always enable the Christian to walk, not after the flesh, but after the Spirit, then it becomes evident that love is a matter of choice and not an emotion. It is also evident that since the Christian cannot in his own strength love God and his fellow-man, emotion can never lead him to a blind acceptance of what can involve his life. Also, the great reason for so much bitterness, lack of love and the numerous emotional outbursts in so many quarters today is because the Christian walks after the flesh. The only sure way to abide in this life of love, to love God and Christ with the whole heart, to love the brethren fervently, and to have a tender compassionate love for all who do not yet know Christ - is an absolute surrender to the Holy Spirit (a choice), to be led and be guided by Him each day of our lives. It is through the Holy Spirit that this love is shed abroad in our hearts.
Friend, it is my wish that you learn the lesson that will make the Holy Spirit take entire possession of you, and work continually within you, a life of love to Christ and to all men. Pray over this thought until it gains control of your whole being!
Love - Forgiveness Is True Love
Most of the lovers don't forgive their loved ones. They may forgive their sworn enemy, but they may not forgive their lover. Do you agree with me why this is so? It should have been exactly reverse. Why, let us discuss.
What is love? What do we understand by loving someone? How is love different than other relationships and emotions? In love, we give our whole mind and heart to our beloved. We try to keep our beloved most comfortable. We take care not to hurt our darling. In love, we care for each other. We are in the mood of giving in love. Giving always gives more pleasure in love than anything else.
If our darling makes a mistake, shall we berate them? Shall we blame them and give them pain? Shall we hold it against them forever? Shall we call them betrayer? If we do all this then it is not love, but a business relationship. I have given you so much now you give your truth, faithfulness and everything else in return.
In love, we have to forgive. We have to pacify our beloved that mistakes are a way of life and everybody does them. We have to tell them not to worry and we are with them. We have to tell them to stop thinking of what happened and think of good things and try to live life joyously. But a majority of us behaves in reverse. That is our failure. It was never love to begin with. If you believe that you love your darling, please learn forgiving.
What is love? What do we understand by loving someone? How is love different than other relationships and emotions? In love, we give our whole mind and heart to our beloved. We try to keep our beloved most comfortable. We take care not to hurt our darling. In love, we care for each other. We are in the mood of giving in love. Giving always gives more pleasure in love than anything else.
If our darling makes a mistake, shall we berate them? Shall we blame them and give them pain? Shall we hold it against them forever? Shall we call them betrayer? If we do all this then it is not love, but a business relationship. I have given you so much now you give your truth, faithfulness and everything else in return.
In love, we have to forgive. We have to pacify our beloved that mistakes are a way of life and everybody does them. We have to tell them not to worry and we are with them. We have to tell them to stop thinking of what happened and think of good things and try to live life joyously. But a majority of us behaves in reverse. That is our failure. It was never love to begin with. If you believe that you love your darling, please learn forgiving.
Love is Not a Feeling
Love is Not a Feeling. What You exclaim, of course, love is a feeling. I feel it in my chest, stomach and my body tingles sometimes. Yes, those are the physiological manifestations when one has the sensation of 'falling in love.'
Falling in love and love are two different phenomena. Falling in love can be either a flash of emotions or a first step towards genuine love. "Love is misunderstood to be an emotion; it is a state of awareness, a way of being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others." -David R. Hawkins
Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to a person. If it is mutual and both people work at their relationship; one day that euphoric experience called, 'falling in love,' can grow into genuine love.
The falling in love phenomena is the call of one's longing to belong, to cathect, but the object is instinctually chosen according to our ideals, dreams and etc., although one may not realize it. We usually fall in love with the person's appearance, with the way she/he walks, the way he/she talks. Sometimes we impute to our object of love some mystic illusion, ideal qualities and the more we get to know the person the less we fall for him or her. That's when the feeling of love disappears even faster than it appeared.
The more two persons get to know each other, the more comfortable they get; the less sharp, bright and exciting the falling in love experience is. Some couples continue their relationships and get married; some fall apart. It's reasonable to say that more clothes in the closet and one more toothbrush in the bathroom is the end of the falling in love phase, but it also can be the beginning of genuine love.
The euphoric feelings we call 'love' is the emotion that accompanies the experience of cathecting. Cathecting is the process by which an object becomes important to a person. Once catheter, the object, often referred to as a 'love object' is invested with our energy as if it were a part of oneself, and this relationship between oneself and the invested object is called a cathexis. One's cathexis may be fleeting and momentary. Genuine love implies commitment and exercise of wisdom. When one is concerned for someone's spiritual and emotional growth, one knows that a lack of commitment is likely to be harmful and that commitment to that person is probably necessary for one to manifest one's concern effectively. The concern and commitment to another's spiritual and emotional growth is the purest form of love. It is for this reason that commitment is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship-friends, significant others, husband/wife.
Genuine love transcends the matter of cathexis. When love exists it does so with or without cathexis and with or without a loving feeling-those bursts of butterflies in the stomach, body tingling, etc.
It is easier-indeed, it is exhilarating-to love with cathexis and the euphoric feeling of love. However, it is possible to love without cathexis and without loving feelings, and it is in the fulfillment of this possibility that genuine and transcendent love is distinguished from simple cathexis. Genuine love is volitional rather than euphorically emotional. The person who truly loves does so because of 'a decision to love.' This person has made a commitment to 'love,' whether or not the loving feelings are present.
It can be difficult and painful to search for evidence of love in one's actions, but because true love is an act of will that transcends ephemeral feelings of love or cathexis, it can be said, "Love is as love does." Love and non-love, as good and evil, are objective and not purely subjective phenomena.
Falling in love and love are two different phenomena. Falling in love can be either a flash of emotions or a first step towards genuine love. "Love is misunderstood to be an emotion; it is a state of awareness, a way of being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others." -David R. Hawkins
Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to a person. If it is mutual and both people work at their relationship; one day that euphoric experience called, 'falling in love,' can grow into genuine love.
The falling in love phenomena is the call of one's longing to belong, to cathect, but the object is instinctually chosen according to our ideals, dreams and etc., although one may not realize it. We usually fall in love with the person's appearance, with the way she/he walks, the way he/she talks. Sometimes we impute to our object of love some mystic illusion, ideal qualities and the more we get to know the person the less we fall for him or her. That's when the feeling of love disappears even faster than it appeared.
The more two persons get to know each other, the more comfortable they get; the less sharp, bright and exciting the falling in love experience is. Some couples continue their relationships and get married; some fall apart. It's reasonable to say that more clothes in the closet and one more toothbrush in the bathroom is the end of the falling in love phase, but it also can be the beginning of genuine love.
The euphoric feelings we call 'love' is the emotion that accompanies the experience of cathecting. Cathecting is the process by which an object becomes important to a person. Once catheter, the object, often referred to as a 'love object' is invested with our energy as if it were a part of oneself, and this relationship between oneself and the invested object is called a cathexis. One's cathexis may be fleeting and momentary. Genuine love implies commitment and exercise of wisdom. When one is concerned for someone's spiritual and emotional growth, one knows that a lack of commitment is likely to be harmful and that commitment to that person is probably necessary for one to manifest one's concern effectively. The concern and commitment to another's spiritual and emotional growth is the purest form of love. It is for this reason that commitment is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship-friends, significant others, husband/wife.
Genuine love transcends the matter of cathexis. When love exists it does so with or without cathexis and with or without a loving feeling-those bursts of butterflies in the stomach, body tingling, etc.
It is easier-indeed, it is exhilarating-to love with cathexis and the euphoric feeling of love. However, it is possible to love without cathexis and without loving feelings, and it is in the fulfillment of this possibility that genuine and transcendent love is distinguished from simple cathexis. Genuine love is volitional rather than euphorically emotional. The person who truly loves does so because of 'a decision to love.' This person has made a commitment to 'love,' whether or not the loving feelings are present.
It can be difficult and painful to search for evidence of love in one's actions, but because true love is an act of will that transcends ephemeral feelings of love or cathexis, it can be said, "Love is as love does." Love and non-love, as good and evil, are objective and not purely subjective phenomena.
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
Senior Citizen Dating Tips, Love in the Third Age
Free article - For anyone, nothing can be as nerve wracking as finding a date. But does that all go away after you've been there, done that simply, no. No matter how many dates you've gone on, the next one is still as scary.
Some senior citizens think that dating is for the younger crowd, and now that they are older and have their own families, it's time to hang up the dating hat. The fact, however, is that there are many elderly people who date every year, and some even marry again!
If you are a senior citizen who wants to date again or you think it's time that your mother and father rejoin the dating scene, here are a few dating tips.
The first dating tip is to broaden your horizons and start looking for places where eligible senior citizens go. There are lots of places that are specifically for the over 50 crowd, so it won't be too hard to find somewhere where you can fit in. Your local bowls club or Retired Serviceman's League club will have lots of resources for the elderly who wants to join in on activities. If you are an active citizen, try signing up for dancing classes or a round of beginner's golf. This will allow you to socialize as well as learn a new skill. If you enjoy the more quiet and peaceful retirement, look for games of bingo or a reading club. Find one that suits you and go along, you never know who you might find.
If you can't find anybody nearby, you can try looking online. There are lots of online dating sites that cater towards senior citizens, and they are easy to find and to join. Make sure the site is legitimate, so you don't end up giving away your valuable information to scam artists.
When you've met somebody you like, it's time to take the next step. One benefit of being a senior citizen is that you have a lot of life experience behind you. But no amount of experience can stop you feeling nervous or excited about asking somebody out on a date. Dating tip number two is, take a few deep breaths and just go for it. Ask the lovely lady or kind gentleman out for a coffee or a walk, something that will give the both of you the opportunity to know more about each other.
Keep these dating tips in mind when you're on the lookout for a potential partner. Remember, dating is not just for the young! Get out there and have some fun.
Some senior citizens think that dating is for the younger crowd, and now that they are older and have their own families, it's time to hang up the dating hat. The fact, however, is that there are many elderly people who date every year, and some even marry again!
If you are a senior citizen who wants to date again or you think it's time that your mother and father rejoin the dating scene, here are a few dating tips.
The first dating tip is to broaden your horizons and start looking for places where eligible senior citizens go. There are lots of places that are specifically for the over 50 crowd, so it won't be too hard to find somewhere where you can fit in. Your local bowls club or Retired Serviceman's League club will have lots of resources for the elderly who wants to join in on activities. If you are an active citizen, try signing up for dancing classes or a round of beginner's golf. This will allow you to socialize as well as learn a new skill. If you enjoy the more quiet and peaceful retirement, look for games of bingo or a reading club. Find one that suits you and go along, you never know who you might find.
If you can't find anybody nearby, you can try looking online. There are lots of online dating sites that cater towards senior citizens, and they are easy to find and to join. Make sure the site is legitimate, so you don't end up giving away your valuable information to scam artists.
When you've met somebody you like, it's time to take the next step. One benefit of being a senior citizen is that you have a lot of life experience behind you. But no amount of experience can stop you feeling nervous or excited about asking somebody out on a date. Dating tip number two is, take a few deep breaths and just go for it. Ask the lovely lady or kind gentleman out for a coffee or a walk, something that will give the both of you the opportunity to know more about each other.
Keep these dating tips in mind when you're on the lookout for a potential partner. Remember, dating is not just for the young! Get out there and have some fun.
Monday, September 17, 2012
Love Needs Romance
In the first time you fallin in love with someone, you will feel that all the happiness are yours. Along the time, that feeling may be the same or chance. Love not a constant feeling if you forget to realize it into the act. So. LOVE NEEDS ROMANCE, the act that make your couple very special than others. What we can do to create the romance ?
1. Bring play back into your relationship. If you find yourself feeling unromantic, ask yourself when was the last time the two of you had fun together. Just plain, silly fun. Doing something like playing a game, watching a comedy, or chasing each other around the house. Anything that you may have enjoyed while you were dating or even when you were kids can help you to stay connected.
1. Bring play back into your relationship. If you find yourself feeling unromantic, ask yourself when was the last time the two of you had fun together. Just plain, silly fun. Doing something like playing a game, watching a comedy, or chasing each other around the house. Anything that you may have enjoyed while you were dating or even when you were kids can help you to stay connected.
2. Speak your partner's love language. We often express love for our partner in the way we want to receive it, but that’s not necessarily the way they need to receive it. Ask your spouse what you can do to make them feel loved and share the same with them. When you give love to your spouse in a way that meets their particular needs, they become more open to expressing love in a way that meets your needs. If you do not share these needs with each other, you can become confused and disappointed.Gentlemen, most women view affection as a reassurance of their partner's caring feelings. So don't hold back! If hugs and kisses will make your woman happy then go for it and you she will make you her King!
3. Set the stage for romance. We often try to "get" our partners to be more romantic by believing we need to change them in order to have what we want. The truth is that you are much more likely to have what you want when you take charge. Create your own romantic mood by dressing up, putting on music, preparing sensuous foods, and taking some time to love and appreciate yourself. It won’t take long for your partner to join in the fun!
3. Set the stage for romance. We often try to "get" our partners to be more romantic by believing we need to change them in order to have what we want. The truth is that you are much more likely to have what you want when you take charge. Create your own romantic mood by dressing up, putting on music, preparing sensuous foods, and taking some time to love and appreciate yourself. It won’t take long for your partner to join in the fun!
4. Ask for what you want. Let your partner know that you are deeply interested in spending some romantic time with them; you would be surprised by how often they are unaware of this. Whining, demanding, and manipulating are contrary to creating romance, so do your best to ask using kind and loving words.
5. Show your appreciation. Note and remark on the little things your partner does to make life better; while it’s one thing to be appreciated for making a romantic gesture, being acknowledged for unglamorous, unceremonious tasks like doing dishes or taking out the trash will turn everyday duties into acts of love. Successful relationships have a 5 to 1 ratio of appreciations to criticisms, so if you really want to heat up your relationship, start appreciating!
Send your partner a text or email at work just to say that you appreciate how hard they work to keep things together. If you really want to go all out, send snail mail; nobody expects it nowadays, so taking the time to do this is extra romantic.
Wake your partner to breakfast and leave a thank-you card on their plate listing reasons why you’re grateful to have them in your life.
Be specific! “Thanks for being so great!” is nice, but “Thank you for reading the kids bedtime stories, making the best pancakes in the world, and always leaving the porch light on for me” shows that you’re paying attention.
6. Talk more. This doesn’t mean going over bills or scheduling chores; it means sharing your hopes, fears, interests, pet-peeves, and all the other things that make you you. This is called self-disclosure and has been shown to be critical for developing and maintaining feelings of trust and intimacy; it’s no coincidence that these are all things people discuss endlessly in the breathless early stages of a romance.
Find a good time and place to talk so you won’t be interrupted by strangers, phone calls, or kids. Inviting your partner to go for a walk, for example, is an easy, romantic way to find some alone time.
Remember to be respectful. Reacting negatively to someone while they self-disclose can create serious fallout.
7. Listen. All humans crave being seen and heard. Let your partner know you're listening by saying, "Wow, I can see why you’re frustrated," or, "That must have been hard on you." Being with your partner and really listening to them can be magical for you both.
Men tend to show that they care by rolling up their sleeves and trying to fix their partners’ problems, but this is often misread as an attempt to rush an unhappy topic along. Be sure to listen to and validate your partner’s story before suggesting ways to help.
8 Tell the truth. Truth is a great way to create connection with your partner, and feeling connected is the ultimate aphrodisiac. For example, you might say "I feel safe when I am with you" or "Sometimes I worry that we’re too busy to create close moments together, but I really want to be close with you." Just share your true feelings and speak from your experience. If you are concealing in your relationship, you will not feel connected, so consider making truth an ongoing priority in your life.
9 Respect your partner. Understand that being together does not mean being the same person or agreeing in everything. Accepting that there are differences between you two will make you better able to meet your partner’s emotional needs. Your confidence in your partner will make them more confident in themselves – and nothing is sexier than two confident people who love and trust one another.
So, if you want yaou love lose or change than the first time you feel it. You can ignore those things to do... Good Luck
5. Show your appreciation. Note and remark on the little things your partner does to make life better; while it’s one thing to be appreciated for making a romantic gesture, being acknowledged for unglamorous, unceremonious tasks like doing dishes or taking out the trash will turn everyday duties into acts of love. Successful relationships have a 5 to 1 ratio of appreciations to criticisms, so if you really want to heat up your relationship, start appreciating!
Send your partner a text or email at work just to say that you appreciate how hard they work to keep things together. If you really want to go all out, send snail mail; nobody expects it nowadays, so taking the time to do this is extra romantic.
Wake your partner to breakfast and leave a thank-you card on their plate listing reasons why you’re grateful to have them in your life.
Be specific! “Thanks for being so great!” is nice, but “Thank you for reading the kids bedtime stories, making the best pancakes in the world, and always leaving the porch light on for me” shows that you’re paying attention.
6. Talk more. This doesn’t mean going over bills or scheduling chores; it means sharing your hopes, fears, interests, pet-peeves, and all the other things that make you you. This is called self-disclosure and has been shown to be critical for developing and maintaining feelings of trust and intimacy; it’s no coincidence that these are all things people discuss endlessly in the breathless early stages of a romance.
Find a good time and place to talk so you won’t be interrupted by strangers, phone calls, or kids. Inviting your partner to go for a walk, for example, is an easy, romantic way to find some alone time.
Remember to be respectful. Reacting negatively to someone while they self-disclose can create serious fallout.
7. Listen. All humans crave being seen and heard. Let your partner know you're listening by saying, "Wow, I can see why you’re frustrated," or, "That must have been hard on you." Being with your partner and really listening to them can be magical for you both.
Men tend to show that they care by rolling up their sleeves and trying to fix their partners’ problems, but this is often misread as an attempt to rush an unhappy topic along. Be sure to listen to and validate your partner’s story before suggesting ways to help.
8 Tell the truth. Truth is a great way to create connection with your partner, and feeling connected is the ultimate aphrodisiac. For example, you might say "I feel safe when I am with you" or "Sometimes I worry that we’re too busy to create close moments together, but I really want to be close with you." Just share your true feelings and speak from your experience. If you are concealing in your relationship, you will not feel connected, so consider making truth an ongoing priority in your life.
9 Respect your partner. Understand that being together does not mean being the same person or agreeing in everything. Accepting that there are differences between you two will make you better able to meet your partner’s emotional needs. Your confidence in your partner will make them more confident in themselves – and nothing is sexier than two confident people who love and trust one another.
So, if you want yaou love lose or change than the first time you feel it. You can ignore those things to do... Good Luck
Love Is Enought To Maintain Relationship
Keeping relationship become happy and maintain for a long time needs more than such a love words. Saying I love You to your couple is not the only way, you need more than words to stay together with people you loved to. it takes more than being together, kissing and holding hands when you want to stay together.Simple way to stay together with your couple. Only follow the three things.
- Communicate. Talking things over is always a great way to settle issues and solve problems. Never ever launch into a cold war --- it's going to eat the love away each day. Be open and listen to each other's sentiments. Respect what the other is feeling and always find time to make-up. Keep a cool head during a confrontation and always try to make use of both your head and heart in trying to solve a problem. Forgive and forget. Just feel the love.
- Give space. Trust is a very vital ingredient when it comes to relationship, and love cannot grow without it. Make some time to miss each other, it's going to make each meeting more intense and full of love. Let your partner go out with their friends and go out with yours. It's all about the balance. Grow individually to become stronger as a couple.
- Express the love. Be generous when it comes to love. Kiss, cuddle, snuggle and hold hands. Tell your sweetheart how much you love them and take some time to be together to do something special. Discover new things everyday and be each other's number one fan. Your utmost support will always make you not just lovers, but friends and allies for life.
So, don’t miss the chance to maintain your relation ship. Please do it...
Romeo And Juliet Found In Tana Toraja
ROMEO AND JULIET FOUND IN TANA TORAJA : Love Story of Lebonna-Paerengan
A famous love story Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespear play has been injured all people all over the world. The story about two family disputing between Montegue and Capulet that can not bond the true love of their children Romeo and Juliet, even the death become a price. Another love story in the movie and novel always become trending for the reader.
But, love story not only found in the fictional world. Tana Toraja that was famous with the torism object with the stone grave and it’s custom left a Romance love story such Romeo and Juliet.
If you visit Tana Toraja and go in Londa, one of the caving grave we can see the skull side by side on the cave. Based on the source those are the skull of Romeo and Juliet in Tana Toraja.
Many stories version about Romeo and Juliet in Tana Toraja. Many said they were prohibited to love each other because they still a very closse relative, most of Torayan believe it can make disaster if they are falling love each other. So, they were choosen to suicide together.
But based on the “Tokoh masyarakat” in Lembang Limbong Dewata, Kecamatan Bonggakaradeng, Damaris Somba, 73 years old. The skull are the property of Lebonna-Paerengan. Lebonna was a very beautiful girl in the village and all the man always competed to found her love. But from many men that shown his love to her only Lebonna-Paerengan that make her fallin love.
They became a couple for long tome and promised to love each other life and death. One day Paerengan had to go to join in the war. So, he left Lebonna in the village. Because there were many boys was jealous with Paerengan, they given an issue that Paerengan was death in the war.
Lebonan that was very love with Paerengan was ver sad. She didn’t want to eat and met people. Finally, because her promise she decided to hang and kill her self. On that time, paerengan went home and found Lebonna passed away, because he really loved her he decided to end his life.
Finally, you can find in Londa, the skull of Romeo and Juliet in Tana Toraja.
Love In the First Sight
LOVE IS NOT ABOUT TIME : LOVE IN THE FIRST SIGHT
Do you belive with Love in the first sight? Sometimes, a man or woman meet in the first time,and suddenly feel that they are attracted each other. Directly they said “I’m fallin love”. Most people said that when you feel you are fallling in love in the first sight, that is not love or passion, but only attracted to the vision side of the person.The rest of them said that is really love because we can not choose the person that we will be loved. So, what is the main reason of the people who gets love in the first sight?
1. Best first performance. Sometimes when we meet with someone, we look at his/her performance. For example when a boy meets a girl when she is waving her hair , a boy looks that is best performance that the girl shown to be a reason to faallin love with her. Or a girl meets a boy when he cleaned his sweat at his face.
2. Good Looking. This is a very general reason. A person who has a beatiful and hansome looking, is the main reason can attracted someone to fallin love with her/him in the first sight.
3. Destiny. Most people belive and the rest are not believe with destiny. Destiny become a rasional reason for someone fallin love in the first sight. They feel when they see someone that is really my destiny.
Friday, September 14, 2012
The Best Romance Place in Summer
Romance sitution can be created in everytime. In order to get a best romance with your couple, you need to have abest time to choose. Summer is the best season to created romance with your couple, and also you have to choose the best place available.
Machu Picchu, Peru
For a Mystical Experience
Sunrise. The light breaks over the deep green of the Andes Mountains, 8,170 feet above sea level. Slowly the mysterious ruins of Machu Picchu appear through the morning mist. If you are brave (and have booked in advance), you can tackle the somewhat challenging climb up the green sugarloaf-shaped mountain, Huayna Picchu—the one you’ve seen on all the travel posters—for incredible views as the sun rises. Plan a full day exploring what many scholars now believe was the great estate of an Incan emperor, rather than a fortress. Stay at Inkaterra’s Machu Picchu Pueblo Resort in Aguas Calientes, the village below the ruins. This eco-friendly, 12-acre property, offers cozy white-washed casitas with fireplaces and thick alpaca blankets for chilly evenings. Guided bird watching and orchid walks are part of the package. Dine in the casual Fusion or the more formal Dining Room, both with views of the roaring Vilacanota River. Book a soothing couples massage, but most of all, bask in the silence.
The Gower Peninsula, Wales
For Glorious Seaside Walks
Wales’ Gower Peninsula, an official “Area of Outstanding Natural Beauty” in Britain, offers glorious cliff top walks, views of serene horseshoe-shaped bays, postcard-pretty villages—and except on summer weekends—a delicious sense of peace. Book a room in the 18th-century mansion Fairy Hill, in Reynoldston, with a restaurant that features only locally sourced food. Head for the Cliff Walk, part of an 850-mile walking path that soon will encircle all of Wales. At Rhossili, the farthest reach of the Gower, hike out to Worms Head, a narrow peninsula stretching into the sea (mind the tides, so you don’t get trapped). Baby lambs—destined for local restaurants where salt marsh lamb is a delicacy—will give curious glances as you walk by. The rather basic Worms Head Hotel has a restaurant, and an unbeatable location. At Cefn Bryn, Gower’s highest point – and the site of a giant boulder known as “King Arthur’s Stone”—you can look over the Llanrhidian salt marshes and see as far as neighboring Carmarthenshire.
The Galilee, Israel
For Gentle Pleasures
Book a room at the quietly elegant Hotel Spa Mizpe-Hayamim, outside the lovely hill town of Rosh Pina (where, rumor has it, Madonna has purchased a home). The pretty hotel’s 37-acre grounds includes walking paths, streams, views of snow-capped Mount Hermon in the distance, as well as the abundant gardens and barns that supply its excellent organic restaurant. Spend a morning in nearby Nazareth to tour the Christian sites and enjoy great Middle Eastern fare at Tishreen, just steps from the Basilica of the Annunciation. Another day, drive north for a tour and tasting at the impressive Golan Heights Winery. Don’t miss the Jewish holy city of Safed, its winding streets lined with art galleries. Be sure to also visit the 16th-century Synagogue Isaac Loria, with is Kabbalistic art. Just below lies the serene Sea of Galilee, also called Lake Kinneret, where you can take wind-surfing lessons, dine on St. Peter’s fish, and view the traditional site of the Sermon on the Mount, marked by a small Franciscan Church.
Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia, Canada
For World-Class Scenery
Canada’s Cape Breton Island is a bit like a journey back in time, with its cozy country inns, farm-fresh fare, and such low-tech pleasures as birding, moose spotting, trout fishing and whale watching. In fact, the whales are so prolific that boat captains guarantee sightings. The island’s vast 370-square-mile Cape Breton Highlands National Park provides dramatic views of both the Gulf of St. Lawrence and the wild waves of the Atlantic. Drive the 190-mile-long Cabot Trail, flanked by towering mountains on one side and sheer cliffs above the sea on the other. If your base is in Pleasant Valley, you will be close to the lovely (but steep and a challenging) Pollett’s Cove Trail, with extraordinary views, as well as places to camp. The pretty Broadwater Inn, 10 minutes from the Cabot Trail, offers rooms in private log cottages or in its main lodge. The adjacent Bell Bay Golf Club provides views stunning enough to distract you from your game.
Stanley Safari Lodge, Victoria Falls, Zambia
For Romance in the Wild
When it comes to romantic safaris, small is better, which helps to explain why the 10-unit Stanley Safari Lodge is perfect for canoodling couples in search of privacy. Splurge on the Livingstone Suite, pure colonial Africa, and so close to Victoria Falls that you can see the spray—not to mention the sunset. The staff will serve private dinner à deux for you anywhere on the lodge grounds. Guided game drives are, of course, the order of the day—sometimes in neighboring Botswana, to see the world’s largest elephant population in Chobe National Park; other times in Zambia and even in Zimbabwe. More options: Riding an elephant through the bush or taking a guided walk alongside some cute baby lions. Take a sunset cruise on the Zambezi or, for the brave, canoe or raft down part of the river (watch out for hippos and crocodiles). Visit the nearby traditional village of Mukuni, ruled by His Royal Highness Chief Mukuni, Monarch of the Victoria Falls. Finish each day with soothing sundowners on your private terrace.
The Island of Madeira, Portugal
For Sipping Wine While Watching the Sun Set Over the Sea
The pretty little island of Madeira feels delightfully British, despite the fact that it actually belongs to Portugal. No matter who owns it, you can’t beat its relatively steady 80-something degree weather, its quiet elegance, and of course, its eponymous wine. Reids Palace Madeira, an Orient Express property, is the place to stay if romance is on the agenda. The hotel is ringed by lush gardens, and offers spectacular views of the Atlantic and sublime spa packages. While it may be hard to leave, do head to the Saint Francis Wine Lodge in Funchal to taste the local wines, some more than 150 years old. Visit the Botanical Garden and see the city panorama from the cable car there. Explore the shops in Funchal’s old port. Locals say that Porto Santo is the best beach on the island—it goes on forever. If you’re feeling energetic, take a guided hike along the “Levados,” the open-air canal system that dates back to the 16th century. It will take you through the island’s green heart, and into Europe’s oldest laurel forest.
Reykjavik and Southern Iceland
For Combining Big City Fun with Lovely Vistas
Start in pretty Reykjavik, with its postcard-perfect harbor, its houses painted in vivid primary colors, and its nightlife that doesn’t stop until morning, especially during the white nights of summer. Great restaurants abound. If touring time is short, put The Settlement Museum, with its almost intact Viking longhouse dating back to 871 A.D., at the top of the list. Real romance, however, lies in the glorious scenery of the Golden Circle, along the country’s south coast. Do it in a day, stopping at Pingvellir National Park, where the North American and European tectonic plates meet, and where an early, oral legal system was devised. Stop at Geysir, the hot (very hot) geothermal eruption that occurs every five minutes and that gave its name to geysers all over the world. Don’t miss the glorious Gulfoss Falls, the roiling water often topped by a perfect rainbow. Savor the beauty of a landscape dotted by sheep and tiny Icelandic horses. Back in Reykjavik, soothe your souls in the Blue Lagoon, where you can smear each other with white mud and bask in a giant 100-degree geothermal pool, before heading to the airport.
Hacienda Santa Inés, Cartago, Costa Rica
For Rural Romance in Ultimate Luxury
Somewhere between peeling the potatoes and putting laundry in the dryer, have you ever wished you could spend a week in the lap of luxury, be waited on hand and foot—and maybe throw a few couples massages into the equation? There is a solution, though it may involve winning the lottery. The exquisite Hacienda Santa Inés, on 300 acres in the mountains above San José, Costa Rica is available for rent, for just one couple; a group of friends; Hollywood celebrities, drawn by the promise of supreme privacy; or destination weddings. This vast private home, complete with a movie theater, a spa, a kitchen that Martha Stewart might covet, and more staff than you could possibly keep busy, will let you feel like you are starring in Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous. Outdoors, you will have 300 acres to roam, gallop around on horseback, or zoom over on an ATV. Indoors, meals are prepared to order and such niceties as aperitifs and champagne enrich your time in the spacious hot tub. Off-property tours are arranged.
Tasmania, Australia
For Getting Far Away From It All
If your romantic dream is to get far away from it all, consider Tasmania, the small, and still delightfully untouched island off Australia’s southern coast. Book a suite at the new and deliciously private, Saffire-Freycinet, located at Coles Bay on the Freycinet Peninsula. This posh place to play accommodates only 40 guests in 20-free-standing suites, all with ocean views. Do as little or as much as you want. Take a picnic to nearby Freycinet National Park, do a morning canoe tour of Pelican Bay, fly kites on the beach, take a guided scenic walk, or just hang out in hammocks. Ready for reentry? Move to the Henry Jones Art Hotel in downtown Hobart, the island’s major city. From there, explore the Tasmanian Devil Conservation site and the infamous Port Arthur Historic Site, where 12,500 British convicts were held in brutal conditions (there is also an evening ghost tour). Stroll through Hobart’s dockside area, and take a tour to the summit of Mount Wellington for views as far as the island’s South West Wilderness.
Langkawi, Malaysia
For Serene Sands, Deep Jungle, and Local Color
The Langkawi Islands, off Malaysia’s west coast, offer glorious strands of white sand backed by deep green palm trees, good restaurants, and great hotels, in a setting that still harks back to the “old” Southeast Asia. You don’t have to drive far from pretty Pantai Cenang Beach, the major hotel strip, to find small settlements of houses built high on stilts, water buffalo contentedly grazing, women working in the rice paddies, and kids pedaling down the road on rattle-trap bicycles. Sacrifice some beach time to ride the cable car to the top of Mount Gunung Mat Cincang, and then walk across the steel bridge to a neighboring mountaintop, enjoying great sea and island views, as well as the rainforest canopy below. Book a boat trip through the mangroves, visit the local hot springs and the black sand beach, and check out at least one of the island’s major sea caves. Langkawi is so rich in natural wonders that it has recently been declared a UNESCO World Geopark.
BECAREFULL OF TEXT MESSAGE (SMS)
Statistics show that texting while carrying out another activity increases the chances of causing accidents by as much as twenty three percent. To stop this trend, several states have now started enforce regulations that prohibits individuals from texting and driving at the same time. Children and teenagers between the ages of thirteen and seventeen are frequently engaged in texting while walking or engaged in a second activity.
Texting draws the typist’s eyes down to look at a very small screen. This reduces the peripheral span of vision. Often one will hunch over during this process due the lighting situation or to try to type more efficiently. As a result, the typist is not only reducing his active and peripheral field of vision but he or she may be creating muscle strain on the body. Here are some points to consider :
1. The repetitive hand movements of texting can injure the wrist, hands or arms. There can also be postural problems with stressed neck muscles. Repetitive texting could result in eye strain. There are even phrases such as Blackberry Thumb and Teen Texting Tendonitis that are now part of our conversations.
2. Texting is particularly dangerous while driving. Research has shown that taking your eyes off a road at a speed of about 25 miles per hour is equivalent to speeding up and down a football area ten times. As a result, texting and talking while driving just don’t mix. You are risking your own life and the life of the person in the car with you. In addition, you are endangering the lives of other drivers as well as pedestrians who are unaware of what you are doing.
3. A new study carried out by the Case Western Reserve School of Medicine also shows that excessive texting by adults or teenagers can make them prone to risky behavior like smoking, drinking and promiscuity.
4. Professionals in the education field have stated that constant texting can reduce the language, spelling and comprehension skills of children and teenagers. Many people now just use abbreviations and shortened phrases to avoid taking the time to type out a word. People often do not engage in complex sentence structures when sending messages and focus on short, direct sentences.
It looks like text messaging will continue to be part of our culture. Don’t let this replace in-depth and genuine dialogues with another person.
Be careful about trying to combine two focused activities such as texting and driving or even texting and walking. Texting is fun, but multitasking often results in neither task getting the proper amount of attention that is required. Driving often requires making sudden decisions and acting with good judgment. For instance, a driver in front of you may need to swerve in order to avoid a car part that is on the road. If your eyes are down and you are scrolling through your phone for new messages, you may be delayed in stepping on your brakes. Texting can wait until you have completed your drive.
It looks like text messaging will continue to be part of our culture. Don’t let this replace in-depth and genuine dialogues with another person.
Be careful about trying to combine two focused activities such as texting and driving or even texting and walking. Texting is fun, but multitasking often results in neither task getting the proper amount of attention that is required. Driving often requires making sudden decisions and acting with good judgment. For instance, a driver in front of you may need to swerve in order to avoid a car part that is on the road. If your eyes are down and you are scrolling through your phone for new messages, you may be delayed in stepping on your brakes. Texting can wait until you have completed your drive.
Thursday, September 13, 2012
Weight Loss Tips - Love Handle Workout
Love handles - the name sounds so affectionate but it is something that you have always wanted to get rid of. It is that flabby area on the lower side of your external oblique abdominal muscles that are formed when your body stores energy as fat. This area is often neglected in stomach and abs exercises, and as a result, this fat still stay even after long hours of what you thought are perfect love handle workouts. Here are some weight loss tips that will be of great help with your urge to achieve a good-looking body and losing them.
These workouts can be easy and this is because all you have to do is simply burn this spot in order to get rid of them, but you need first to raise your body's metabolism until it's enough for spot toning. That means you have to start with cardio exercise routines for you to be able to lose those stubborn love handles.
There are a good number cardio exercise routines that you can try and these ranges from gym machines to outdoor workouts. These include using a rowing machine or a treadmill and elliptical bikes. However, there are also simple routines that you can do at home, doing foggy jumps, squat thrust, or jumping jacks for example. With these routines you do not only have a love handle workout but you are also targeting endurance and boosting your fitness level. A solid foundation of 3-5 times a week of 30-60 minutes cardio exercises can be a good start.
Now you can do more exercises in order to burn more calories that will eventually lead to losing your love handles. It is actually a misconception that sit-ups, crunches, and twists are the perfect love handle workouts, although they are good abs exercises, since most of the time they burn an unimportant amount of calories but that doesn't mean that they are targeting your love handles. What then are better routines than these exercises all A regular small-distance walking and running will do better, and these exercises are not difficult to do since these can just be simply part of your daily routine. These are the most practical weight loss tips, and a sure and effective love handle workout.
In addition, you must lower your body fat percentage, and a calorie-restricted diet will be of great help as you go on with your love handle workout. A simple concept of less calorie intake and more exercises greatly helps you in your workout routine. That means hours of following serious routines of different love handle exercises will just go to waste if you go home to a bad diet. You have to maintain the combination of eating good food and regular exercise.
Do these exercise consistently in moderation (considering love handles are your only problem, not abs):
1. Side Bridge (Planks)
2. Twists (using broom or empty barbell)
3. Side Bends
4. Side Crunches
5. Side Jackknife
6. Ab Bicycles (Knee-to-elbow Crunches)
I can't post all the links here because this directory doesn't allow me to. For details on how to do them, just Google it up.
There are a good number cardio exercise routines that you can try and these ranges from gym machines to outdoor workouts. These include using a rowing machine or a treadmill and elliptical bikes. However, there are also simple routines that you can do at home, doing foggy jumps, squat thrust, or jumping jacks for example. With these routines you do not only have a love handle workout but you are also targeting endurance and boosting your fitness level. A solid foundation of 3-5 times a week of 30-60 minutes cardio exercises can be a good start.
Now you can do more exercises in order to burn more calories that will eventually lead to losing your love handles. It is actually a misconception that sit-ups, crunches, and twists are the perfect love handle workouts, although they are good abs exercises, since most of the time they burn an unimportant amount of calories but that doesn't mean that they are targeting your love handles. What then are better routines than these exercises all A regular small-distance walking and running will do better, and these exercises are not difficult to do since these can just be simply part of your daily routine. These are the most practical weight loss tips, and a sure and effective love handle workout.
In addition, you must lower your body fat percentage, and a calorie-restricted diet will be of great help as you go on with your love handle workout. A simple concept of less calorie intake and more exercises greatly helps you in your workout routine. That means hours of following serious routines of different love handle exercises will just go to waste if you go home to a bad diet. You have to maintain the combination of eating good food and regular exercise.
Do these exercise consistently in moderation (considering love handles are your only problem, not abs):
1. Side Bridge (Planks)
2. Twists (using broom or empty barbell)
3. Side Bends
4. Side Crunches
5. Side Jackknife
6. Ab Bicycles (Knee-to-elbow Crunches)
I can't post all the links here because this directory doesn't allow me to. For details on how to do them, just Google it up.
For starters, do side bridges for 1 minute each side, do the twists for 5 minutes and do everything 10 each side every other day consistently.
Most importantly than all those exercise, beginners MUST start with High-intensity Interval Training (HIIT) around 3 times per week. The function of this is to burn fat. You won't lose those love handles if you have high body fat percentage. Long cardio and slow brisk walking are not just boring (useful in some situation), but also useless if your target is love handle. Basically, HIIT is doing an intense and slow cardio back to back after a warm-up.
Example: let's say jogging (you can apply the same concept in frog jumps or other cardio mentioned before as well)
a. 4 minutes moderate jogging (warm-up)
b. 30 seconds sprinting
c. 30 seconds slow jogging
d. Repeat b and c 4-12 times (depend on your fitness level, beginners should start with 4)
e. 4 minutes moderate jogging (warm-down)
After you advanced, do a combination of HIIT, old school sprinting and brisk walking every week ( like on Monday, Wednesday, Friday). This is to beat plateau, where you won't make any progress no matter how hard you try.
You can substitute HIIT with sports that require you to move slowly and suddenly quickly like football, soccer, rugby, basketball and so on.
These weight loss tips are your guides to effectively achieve your goal of toning your body, but these suggested love handle workouts would only take effect when done together with proper discipline. In addition, care should also be taken especially when you do more strenuous abs-toning exercises, or better yet, do these routines with the supervision of a qualified fitness instructor.
Most importantly than all those exercise, beginners MUST start with High-intensity Interval Training (HIIT) around 3 times per week. The function of this is to burn fat. You won't lose those love handles if you have high body fat percentage. Long cardio and slow brisk walking are not just boring (useful in some situation), but also useless if your target is love handle. Basically, HIIT is doing an intense and slow cardio back to back after a warm-up.
Example: let's say jogging (you can apply the same concept in frog jumps or other cardio mentioned before as well)
a. 4 minutes moderate jogging (warm-up)
b. 30 seconds sprinting
c. 30 seconds slow jogging
d. Repeat b and c 4-12 times (depend on your fitness level, beginners should start with 4)
e. 4 minutes moderate jogging (warm-down)
After you advanced, do a combination of HIIT, old school sprinting and brisk walking every week ( like on Monday, Wednesday, Friday). This is to beat plateau, where you won't make any progress no matter how hard you try.
You can substitute HIIT with sports that require you to move slowly and suddenly quickly like football, soccer, rugby, basketball and so on.
These weight loss tips are your guides to effectively achieve your goal of toning your body, but these suggested love handle workouts would only take effect when done together with proper discipline. In addition, care should also be taken especially when you do more strenuous abs-toning exercises, or better yet, do these routines with the supervision of a qualified fitness instructor.
The Psychology Behind Dating Younger Women
Whether they will admit it or not, most guys wouldn't mind being able to date and attract younger women. Once you get to a certain age, being able to attract and date a younger woman seems to be an elusive ability that most guys assume they do not have. And, even if they are able to experience the thrill of dating a woman who is younger than them, they will do unnecessary things to try and make sure that they are able to attract her. Things like spending a lot of money on things to try and sway her or by trying to dote too much attention on her.
You may be wondering if there are any secrets to the psychology of dating younger women that can help you to experience what it's like to attract a woman younger than you. Just like any other dating dynamic, there is. When you understand the psychology of dating younger women, you can be one of those men who seem to have that uncanny ability to approach any woman you want and know that you really DO have a chance with her.
Here are some tips on the psychology of dating a younger woman that will help you to attract almost any woman you desire:
1. You don't have to woo a younger woman with your money just because you might be older than her, you can use other techniques that are much more effective.
Trying to use money as a way to attract a woman who might be younger than you is not the most effective way to go about it. For one, you will condition her to expect this from you, so you will have to continue to use money as a way to try and make her life you. Another thing that you need to keep in mind is that not all women are going to be persuaded with money. Using techniques that build real attraction are going to be much more effective and you don't have to worry about whether or not she is with you just for the money.
2. The reason why most men don't think that they can date a younger woman is because they don't feel confident about themselves.
We tell ourselves things all of the time in our own minds about whether or not we can attract certain women and most of it deals with our own self confidence. Confidence can be alluring to a woman, no matter what age she might be. If you want to make age a non issue with a woman, then you need to be confident that you can have a chance with her, and that you can make her see you as a guy she would like to date for all of the right reasons.
3. Getting yourself in good shape will also help you feel like you can date women who are younger than you.
Not only will you feel better about yourself and how you look by getting in shape, but it also helps to make you feel like you can walk up to any woman you want and have a realistic shot at making her feel attracted to you. It's not always about looks, but by keeping yourself in good shape, you can roll back the years a little and make yourself seem more appealing to a younger female.
Monday, September 3, 2012
What the Differences Woman and Man in Love?
1. Factor romance
Women: As many as 40 percent of women said their husband or boyfriend is not romantic.
Men: 75 men claim to the contrary is quite romantic
2. Greetings I Love You
Women: More than 43 percent of women say I love you just as a response to the utterance partner even though the purpose is not love. So as much as 12 percent of women do not say these expressions but they may be revealing to keep the feelings of their partner.
Male: As many as 18 percent of men say I love you, just so she wanted to have sex partner. So as much as 20 per cent have never said that he said was a lie.
3. Crying tight
Women: As many as 75 percent of women cry at least once a month. By 33 percent to cry at least once a week. Then 99 percent of women believe it when men cry.
Men: Almost 5 percent of men never cry for any reason. About 38 percent said they cried in response to a tragedy like the death of a loved one. While 27 percent of men find it no problem to cry with emotion every time. Then 29 percent of men said no problem crying for unknown to many people.
4. Wedding
Women: 55 percent of women said they did not feel at all pressured (by the family friend, etc.) to get married. But 36 percent of women said they would not build a relationship with a man unless he would be a potential husband.
Male: About 33 percent of men will not continue the relationship unless they feel their partner will be an advanced potential wife. More than 85 percent of men believe in the institution of marriage.
5. Breakup
Women: As many as 27 percent of women had disconnected with the help of technologies such as email chat or SMS. Then decided that only 16 percent of women with abandoned and never communicate again.
Men: A total of 80 men believed that the break should be done face to face. Only 4 percent believe it does not matter if the break up over the phone or other technologies such as email or sms chat.
So that is the differences between love point of view of love.
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Woman Smarter in Cheating Than A man
"However, one in fivemen will be caught cheating," according to research published it. Not only that, one of the 10 men who had an affair has the possibility of doing it again. Meanwhile, the woman who had an affair because there was a problem with his partner while the man was having an affair because they are interested in a third party.
A marriage counselor named Chen Han Xi claimed as many as 90 percent of marriages will end in divorce if the wife caught cheating. However, if the husband who cheated then most of this relationship be saved because most men are just looking for sheer physical gratification without emotional involvement.
That is the reason why women are smarter than men cheating, hopefully this article useful. if my friend according to this article useful please share with friends, companions and their families through the existing share buttons below.
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The Things That is Dangerous to Tell to Your Girls
In relationship we have to keep communication and be honest. But we have to select the things that we have to tell to your girl. Keep it ....
1. Personal care
Most men do not agree with the personal care they think is hurting the body. In fact, according to you, 'Beauty is Pain' is something reasonable.
There are men who can not bear to know that her lover had painful condition each time before menstruation. Better, keep your beauty secrets.
2. Memories with former lover
Men want to be the best figure ever owned lover. Telling romantic memories with his former lover to make him feel that you are not completely love. Alternatively, you feel your loved one to compare himself with his former lover.
In fact, could you tell me the very thing you regret. Instead, keep your past with former though sooner or later he will find out.
3. Past relationship with a male friend
You may have a history of romance with male friends and are still friends. Telling the story has the potential to create problems in your relationship and your partner today.
Acts that would cause jealousy and paranoid when you want to meet and talk with your male friends.
4. Still thinking about a former lover
He may never see your girlfriend or do not know anything about him. Yet hear the word 'former' has become a threat to him.
Now imagine what would happen if you said how happy you are with your ex first. Even worse if your lover is familiar with the former.
The more you know about your ex lover you are, the more upset him. The less you say, the less problems you will face. Focus to be more open and accepting affection from your loved one at this time.
While it is important to be honest, there are some sensitive information the better buried. So, think a thousand times before saying it.
Well, that's the thing that should never be told to your lover. Although honesty is important in building a relationship, but you need to consider what kind of honesty you should apply to your relationship. There are things that you should not tell your lover or spouse in order to maintain the integrity of your relationship
So, don’t tell everything about you to your girl, if you want look well.
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